Last year when i started morning walk, a friend of mine wanted to join me. I said OK. He asked me give him a wake up call. I tore that request apart as he can use alarm feature of his smart phone. He tried to lecture me on value of friendship and a friend in need is a friend indeed. I thought he didnt know how to set alarm.
After one year, another friend asking the guy from last year to wake him early in the morning. As the discussion was happening in front of me, i asked why he has to wake him up. The reply was " It feels good , when someone wakes us up with a phone call " , my first thought was, he might have broke up with his girl and wants someone to call him early in the morning.
The question is why you need somebody to do your work when you can do it without any trouble? Initially, i concluded that its accepting weakness. But it didnt fit in for all cases to explain. Then thought of super-ego, which demands a man-Friday for chores. I had to rule it out as i knew him a bit.
Then started focusing on how someone reminding of him of the things he wish to do , makes him happy? If i want to do something, and if anyone reminds me of it, i get irritated , thats ego. But why would he be feeling good?
My next guess was "need". Its not that he needs another mans help to walk , its just that he wants a company. But why does he want a company for a simple thing like going to morning walk?
I have decided to do autopsy of the issue, in Thomas Hobbs way. According to the philosopher, all our emotions, deeds, behaviors etc etc i.e everything that makes us human come from two feelings. 1. Wanting 2. Not Wanting. This didnt help me, as he "wants" to go morning walk.
You, the reader, must be thinking that i am wasting because a friend of mine asked another to give him a call. Its not an isolated issue. I know people who needs a company to go to washrooms (including men), have tea, paying bills, shopping, watching a movie, doing chores etc etc.
Some political philosophers tried to explain why individuals formed a society. We were born in a society and we take it for granted like sun and moon. However, society is not a natural thing. Some say, we formed groups to protect our selves from chaos and some say to help each other. I dont think any normal person in the world can cause chaos by going to walk alone. And if he is not a physically challenged person, he does not help either. I agree that a good company will make these things lively, but i could not understand how people avoid doing things because they have company.
May be, some cant stay calm for a long time without talking. And thats another thing i have not understood at yet. More on the related subject The man who talk too much !!
To be social, do we have to lose individuality and solitude ? Losing the joy of solitude for fake laughs seems silly. Taking care of self gives confidence. It assures us we dont have to depend on someone for our needs. However, most of the people, dont even know how to pass time without a company. If they are bored, they have to call someone to chitchat.
I cant conclude this post because, i have dont have answers.
After one year, another friend asking the guy from last year to wake him early in the morning. As the discussion was happening in front of me, i asked why he has to wake him up. The reply was " It feels good , when someone wakes us up with a phone call " , my first thought was, he might have broke up with his girl and wants someone to call him early in the morning.
The question is why you need somebody to do your work when you can do it without any trouble? Initially, i concluded that its accepting weakness. But it didnt fit in for all cases to explain. Then thought of super-ego, which demands a man-Friday for chores. I had to rule it out as i knew him a bit.
Then started focusing on how someone reminding of him of the things he wish to do , makes him happy? If i want to do something, and if anyone reminds me of it, i get irritated , thats ego. But why would he be feeling good?
My next guess was "need". Its not that he needs another mans help to walk , its just that he wants a company. But why does he want a company for a simple thing like going to morning walk?
I have decided to do autopsy of the issue, in Thomas Hobbs way. According to the philosopher, all our emotions, deeds, behaviors etc etc i.e everything that makes us human come from two feelings. 1. Wanting 2. Not Wanting. This didnt help me, as he "wants" to go morning walk.
You, the reader, must be thinking that i am wasting because a friend of mine asked another to give him a call. Its not an isolated issue. I know people who needs a company to go to washrooms (including men), have tea, paying bills, shopping, watching a movie, doing chores etc etc.
Some political philosophers tried to explain why individuals formed a society. We were born in a society and we take it for granted like sun and moon. However, society is not a natural thing. Some say, we formed groups to protect our selves from chaos and some say to help each other. I dont think any normal person in the world can cause chaos by going to walk alone. And if he is not a physically challenged person, he does not help either. I agree that a good company will make these things lively, but i could not understand how people avoid doing things because they have company.
May be, some cant stay calm for a long time without talking. And thats another thing i have not understood at yet. More on the related subject The man who talk too much !!
To be social, do we have to lose individuality and solitude ? Losing the joy of solitude for fake laughs seems silly. Taking care of self gives confidence. It assures us we dont have to depend on someone for our needs. However, most of the people, dont even know how to pass time without a company. If they are bored, they have to call someone to chitchat.
I cant conclude this post because, i have dont have answers.
1 comment:
Hehe.., good alarm .. ;)
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