I was not referring to the guys to who become over-talkative in presence of girls, or vice versa . I was referring people with obsessive talking disorder. People who cant stop talking. I am not sure if its a biological problem or psychological disorder or just lack of social skills.
These people have to talk all the time. Because, its their jaws which pump the blood to other parts of the body. If they stop talking, they die. I don't have a problem, if they choose to chew a gum, but somehow , they prefer to talk, they have to use tongue. May be its because their jaws get sweat and the tongue has to fan them.
Based on what they talk , i categorize them into three sections.
Category 1 :
These people think they have social skills. If you start a topic, which they don't know, they talk nonsense on it with confidence. You might misunderstand that they are trying for "I-Know-it-all" image. Thats not true, its just that , saying "I don't know about that " would not give them chance to speak. So , they have to made up stories or something about the topic you started, just to talk. That stresses their mind a lot, and the side affect is, they tend to forget what they chattered. If they picked the topic of conversation, then you are dead.
Category 2:
These people did not cultivate the habit of listening. No listening means no accumulation of new knowledge. They have very little to speak, and that "little", usually, about themselves. So, they talk a lot about their families, about their childhood, their school teacher, their friends, incidents which happened in the past .... repeatedly, over and over again, each time with same energy levels, to new listeners or to the old ones.
After sometime, you knew how the story going to end, because you heard it several times before, but still , you will be forced to listen to that. These people are so enthusiastic in talking , that they dont even bother if you are listening or not. And that enthusiasm makes them deaf, once they start talking. I prefer listening to their nonsense over phone so that i can finish chores , all i have to say "ok", "ooh", "really?" "is it?" "Then?" etc etc. Usually i stick to "OK", of course i have to make those sounds to satisfy myself that i am in a conversation, not in a public meeting. You need not bother to say a sentence or share a similar story which happened with you. Even if you do, they dont listen. Social manners says that , if somebody is talking, listen to them. They are not aware of it, they will resume their chatter before you finish your sentence. Just remember that, they have got wax in their ears and they are reciting the chapters from their little diaris. According to my observation, these people jump to category one after few years.
Category 3:
The purest form of verbal diarrhea. Just nonsense. They are burden to society. And society sarcastically calls them "Talkative", and they take it as a compliment. These people have to verbalize every thought from their brains. Luckily, these are easy to spot, just listen 5 minutes, and you will understand that , what ever they talk , is patternless and does not make sense. These are so dumb that, they usually misunderstand whatever you say. If you find a person like that, just run for your life. Don't even try to be polite, just make an excuse so that others wont think of you rude......... and run.
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